Discover Your Sweet Spot


A very good friend and mentor of mine Scott Fay, has just released his new book “Discover Your Sweet Spot.” Let me tell you it is a hit and has made an amazing impact on my life. This book is easy to read and even easier to apply.

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Design With the End in Mind

By Scott M. Fay

Author, Discover Your Sweet Spot

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What do you plan on doing with the new space?” I inquired with genuine interest.

You’d be surprised how few of my clients know the answer to this question.

“I’m not sure I know what you’re asking,” he responded back with equal sincerity. “I thought you were just going to pick out some good- looking trees and shrubs for us. You’re the professional. Isn’t that why we hired your team?”

“I’m definitely up for advising you along the way,” I said reassuringly. “But trust me, designing with the end in mind will help tremendously. Think about it this way: as you imagine the new space we’re designing for you, what do you see yourself doing in that space? Are you hosting garden parties with friends? Do you see yourself sitting next to a small waterfall feature in the evenings while reading your favorite novel? Or maybe you picture your grandkids playing Frisbee with you in the backyard on a plush green lawn?”

A warm smile slowly spread across my client’s face.

“OK, I get it now. You know, come to think of it, I can see myself doing all three!” he chuckled.

“One thing though, Scott,” he shot back.

“Sure, what is it?” By this time, I anticipated a little humor. “Before I give you my final answer, I just have to ask…do you have any additional options besides those three? After all, I don’t want to limit any fun.”

At this comment, we both started laughing. “Now you’re getting it,” I grinned.

I start every job the same way, helping my clients design with the end in mind. It’s always better to talk through their desires in the design phase than to work them out in the build phase. Designing with the end in mind saves them money and it saves me time. Although my landscaping team is always happy to help, and we can do almost anything, most clients don’t have an endless supply of money. A little intentional thinking on the front end saves everyone time and money on the back end.

But this principle reaches far beyond waterfalls and flowerbeds. In fact, it touches every single one of us. Although we might not be able to literally design the environment around us, we’re each given the responsibility to design a conducive environment within us.

Are YOU designing your environment with the end in mind?

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Excerpt taken from Discover Your Sweet Spot by Scott M. Fay, published by Morgan James Publishing, available here via Amazon. More info:  http://www.thesweetspotsystem.com .

Importance of Belief


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It is essential to have an attitude of believing the best in others; understanding this concept can have its challenges.

The self-fulfilling prophecy refers to the idea that when someone creates a belief in something that is not yet true, and expects something with certainty, it will become true.  With people, it suggests that as we communicate our expectations, they will conform and deliver the appropriate results.

When working with people, this is critical.  When you express a lack of confidence in someone, it is returned with mediocrity, however if you believe in them and expect them to do well, research has shown that they will live up to that expectation.

What we expect, all too often, is exactly what we get.

The four key principles of the self-fulfilling prophecy:

  • We form certain expectations, or beliefs, of people or events based on our own perceptions and experiences
  • We communicate those expectations through our behaviors in a way that we would not have done without the belief
  • People generally respond by adjusting their behavior to match
  • The result is that the original expectation becomes reality

Based on these principles, we can conclude that the expectations leaders place on their team determines the quality of the teams’ output. A study of 100 self-made millionaires  has shown that the most common characteristic in the group was the desire and ability to see the good in others. They were people builders, not critics. They empowered and supported their team to be their very best through positive means.

Believing the best in people is a critical piece of building successful viable relationships.

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Form and evaluate yourself regarding your beliefs and expectations.

ACTION STEP #2 ~ Assess these Beliefs and Expectations and determine the impact they are having on you and those around you.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ If your Beliefs and Expectations are not moving you towards your goal or are stopping you in your relationships……Take Action to change them!

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As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

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Generosity


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Generosity is the selfless act of giving with no expectation of anything in return.  The beauty of being a generous person is that even though intentions are to receive nothing in return, the giver in fact receives tenfold.

How can that be?  Why if being generous is so fruitful more people would engage in this behavior?  Simple, in today’s society, we are accustomed to the hear and now –  at microwave speed.  I give you something and you give me something in return right now – today – this minute.  Immediate gratification.

If I donate my time and energy for a cause that is fundraising money to build clean water wells in Haiti, I won’t see the fruit of my labor today and in fact I may never see it in my lifetime.  But giving from my heart – giving knowing that a person who drinks from that well won’t be knocking on my door handing me a couple bucks for my time, but knowing that a person will one day be drinking clean healthy water and live a healthier better life because I took the time is worth more than a couple bucks.  I traded my time to help someone better their life.   And we may never meet.

I didn’t need that instant gratification.  What I got back was knowing that somewhere, someone in the future is benefiting from something I did today.  I gave of myself knowing I will not get anything tangible in return.  I gave from my heart.

We can give of ourselves each and every day by smiling at a stranger, helping an elderly person put groceries in their car, working at a food bank, shoveling a neighbor’s driveway, cutting someone’s lawn… that selfless act of paying it forward through generosity.  What a beautiful concept. I think this graphic displays the true results of generosity. Thanks to www.generositypath.comgenerosity-spiral-both-vertical

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Form  to assess your generosity and find ways to increase it in your life. Also start monitoring how you are feeling during the opportunity to be generous. This can be through a daily journal. Document the feeling and assess the impact it is having on you reaching your goal.

ACTION STEP #2 ~ Develop a mindset of generosity. This does not have to be only financial. Be aware of what the feelings are when you are generous and when you withhold generosity.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Practice true generosity and watch how the world around you changes and what opportunities come into your life.

ACTION STEP BONUS – Be generous with this blog, share it and send it onto someone who you think might need these words today!

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

Notice – Act – Navigate – Create – Yield Results

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Forgiveness


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Ask anyone you meet if they have ever been hurt by another.  You will hear a resounding YES! Now, ask how they handled the hurt and you will hear many different stories about resentment, revenge, internalizing, depression, anger, and sadness but few stories about forgiveness.  Why?  Why would anyone hold onto pain if they don’t have to?  What is it in our nature to harbor ill feelings or hold onto past pain?  Studies show that holding onto emotional pain transpires into physical illness.  Dis-ease has been linked to our mental well-being.  If we have the power to heal ourselves, where do we start?

Some call it letting go; others call it forgiving.  Not only forgiving others, but  forgiving ourselves.  Forgiving someone doesn’t mean denying the other person’s responsibility for hurting you.  Forgiving someone isn’t excusing the act.  Forgiveness is a practice for compassion, empathy, kindness and peace.

Forgiveness is letting go of the need for revenge and releasing negative thoughts of bitterness and resentment.

For some people, the beginning stage or a beginning stage of forgiveness is anger. They feel angry at someone who did or said something to them in a way that brought about harm or pain or sadness or disappointment. We feel stung and pained.  Sometimes surprised. Burned. Crushed. Upset. Stunned.

The anger we hold exists as a response to pain that has been inflicted or that we feel has been inflicted on us. We can stay stuck in this angry place for a long time. In fact, some people stay there forever. And I angerdon’t have to tell you that being stuck in anger is not fun. In fact, it can suck the life out of a person. It can be all consuming in the most negative way.

Holding pain inside is a breeding ground for negative feelings.  Negative feelings in turn come out through anger, resentment, and the desire to seek vengeance.  Negative feelings also keep us from enjoying the present; turning into depression and anxiety ultimately sabotaging those relationships we hold so dear.

Most people hold in these feelings, the pain, the anger, keeping the negativity and the poison inside, allowing it to grow and fester and expand. The strength of the anger is in direct proportion to the amount of pain, of anger, that we hold inside. Don’t get me wrong, anger is not always a bad thing. We need to feel it in order to eventually let it go. Trying to hide the anger or stuff it way down or dismiss it is not going to make it go away. In fact, it is going to make it worse. Because it is only once we allow ourselves to feel the anger and acknowledge what it feels like, and that we feel it in the first place, we can set the stage for letting it go. And only through letting it go can we truly forgive. The opposite of letting it go is holding it tight and allowing it to eat us alive.  The opposite of letting it go is withholding love. It is holding on to little complaints and little grievances one at a time. Maybe slowly, but certainly surely, we start to become toxic around this issue. And this issue can and often does spawn off additional other issues. The more this cycle continues, the more your growth is stunted. Your dreams are thwarted. Your energy is sapped and sucked out until you have little left for yourself or anyone else.

Practicing forgiveness is a commitment to change.  Moving away from a victim role and taking a more proactive and positive stance on your well-being will move you toward a more peaceful and enjoyable life.

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Sometimes an act seems unforgivable.  Place yourself in their shoes.  Consider how you would have reacted or behaved if it were you. Accept that we are all human and have occasional imperfections. With any decision to make a change, journaling is an easy way to document and reflect on your feelings, which will help move you toward your goal.

Forgiveness is within you, there is no guarantee it will change the offender or future acts and therefore it is important for you to know that forgiving someone may not give you the immediate outcome you desire – this is an internal practice that will ultimately change your external world – it is a personal practice and not a means to change someone else.

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Form and evaluate yourself regarding forgiveness and assess where these might be stopping you!

ACTION STEP #2 ~ Determine who must be forgiven.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Take Action! Go to those that need to be forgiven…….and remember to look at starting with yourself first!

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

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Fear


Fear is critical to our survival!

It keeps us protected from legitimate threats and danger.  If we only had life threatening fears, we’d be a very different society.  Instead, we have additional irrational fears based on traumas, bad experiences, or those all too often handed down fears from our ill-advised relatives.the_closet_monster_1600_clr_5623

Looking at your fears, take a quick inventory in your head of what you are afraid of.  Heights is usually at the top of the list and a legitimate fear, although some go to extremes, but there is a danger element in falling.  What else makes your list?  Wild animals? Spiders? Rejection? Pain? Flying? Swimming? Public Speaking? Relationships? People? The color blue?

Fears are thoughts that we create based on experiences either that we have had or others have had and have imprinted onto our minds.  Yes, sometimes we accept and take on the fears of others. These fears are created, perpetuated and held in our minds, sometimes even becoming too intense and then we develop anxieties and find our fears crippling our progress.

One definition of Fear I have heard and really like is False Evidence Appearing Real!

By giving in and accepting our fears, we cannot move forward.  We cannot grow.  We are stopped in our tracks.  For example, fear of failure is common in varying degrees.  It keeps people from progressing in their careers, relationships, commitments.  People who exhibit this fear tend to stay in dead end jobs, stay in bad marriages, take the hand that’s dealt to them.  Accepting life as is and not daring to risk failing, so why bother, why try?  How about fear of rejection?  I’m not good enough anyway… I can’t do that job, I don’t have the credentials or experience and they won’t like me anyway…

I have also seen a fear of success stop people. I love this quote: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” ~ Marianne Williamson

So frustrating, right?  We all know someone like this.  Maybe it’s us?  Maybe we need a little push, a little self confidence, a realization that the fear we carry with us is made up, make believe. We can change our thinking and let go of whatever trauma we hold on to that makes the fear so real – so tangible – so part of our lives that we accepted long ago that it just is.

The key to change...is to let go of fearSometimes we need help from others to work through our fears.  A great coaching relationship will help us address and move past these fears. Sometimes we need a trusting mentor to show us the way, to gently guide us on our journey and break free of these fear chains we have grown to “love” so much. It is very hard to rid ourselves of these fears on our own…why cause they are our fears!

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Formand evaluate yourself regarding fear and assess where these might be stopping you!

ACTION STEP #2 ~ Determine the validity of those fears. Are they irrational fears? Are they fears that you can overcome with help?

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Consider a coach or mentor to work with you to overcome these fears and move past the barriers that stop you from achieving your full potential.

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

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Enthusiasm


10337420Enthusiasm is that place between perseverance and defeat.  It is what makes someone stay motivated and keep going and others give up and quit.  Enthusiasm.

So how does one get it and how does one keep it?  Look at your own life experiences to times when you lost your desire to work at something whether it was a marriage, a career, or something less dramatic as painting a room.  So you didn’t finish the room or you were too tired to touch up the trim.  Maybe you don’t call it quitting because it is insignificant on the giant spectrum of life but with something like a marriage or career, the results could be disastrous.

Imagine you want something so wonderful – so out of reach – anything – a car, a career, a house, a spouse, a smaller waistline, whatever it is – imagine it.  Do you feel energy inside you – don’t worry about how you will get it – just imagine it.  The how isn’t important – release that from your mind.  OK, you have that image now.  Now think about that every day.  That image.  Keep that image alive.  Every time you think about it you can add more detail to it.  If it were a house, you can start to add furniture and accessorize the house.  The color of the walls, the carpet or tile or wood flooring.  The light fixtures.  Every time you think about it feel the energy.  That energy is enthusiasm.

So now you know what that feels like – let’s build on that feeling and keep it alive.  You have a job to do, some task, and you aren’t feeling too motivated or enthusiastic about it.  You can use self-talk to give you energy.  You know that if you do it now you will be grateful later.  You know that this task is the right thing to do and the benefits will outweigh the energy spent on the task now.  Focus on the end result to build your motivation.

Sustain enthusiasm by understanding what the outcome is to your actions.  Enthusiasm is an emotion that you show and feel and sometimes when you aren’t feeling so enthusiastic about something, you can pretend to be and the more you pretend, you trick your mind into believing that you actually are enthusiastic.  It is a phenomenon that will help you sustain your enthusiasm when you aren’t feeling very motivated or full of energy.

Being enthusiastic about a task at hand will spill into other areas of your life and you will see that your positive enthusiastic attitude will lighten up a room.  You will become that person others are drawn to.

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Evaluation Form  to assess enthusiasm and find ways to increase it in your life. Also start monitoring how you are feeling during times of trials and tribulations. This can be through a daily journal. Document the  feeling and assess the impact it is having on you reaching your goal.

ACTION STEP #2 ~ Develop a mantra, saying or some way to break the defeating emotion and bring back the excitement and enthusiasm.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Practice true enthusiasm and watch how the tasks become easier and more fun!

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

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Efficiency



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Can you imagine that there may be a better way to doing what you do?  Can you accept that idea?  Are you open minded enough to ask others for differing opinions?  If you are able and willing to look at things through different eyes, read on.

How many times have you completed your daily routine without even thinking twice about which shoe went on first, if you brushed your teeth, if you washed your hair?

We are creatures of habit.  We do things a certain way because, well, it works! Or that’s how I always did it.  Because. I don’t know! Because that is how my mom/dad taught me.  Because that is what my big brother did… Hmmmm.

So maybe it’s time to re-examine how you do what you do and why you do it and see if there is a better more efficient way of doing it? Maybe if you stop for a moment and say ok, I am going to consciously take notice of my life, my actions, my choices, you may immediately see that it’s time for a change.

Awareness is key to moving from a dependent state of doing to an independent state of being.  Examine your actions and take responsibility for the outcomes.  Now that you are aware of your outcomes and how you got there, examine these outcomes and decide if these need changed as well.  By focusing on the end result, you can make the necessary changes early on to better direct your time and energy.

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Start monitoring what you are doing. This can be through a daily journal. Document the time it takes you to do the tasks in your day.

ACTION STEP #2 ~ At the end of the week, evaluate where you spend your time. Look for time wasters and tasks that could be accomplished by others.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Re-adjust your habits and schedules to move towards the most efficient use of not only your time but that of others in your team!

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

Notice – Act – Navigate – Create – Yield Results

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Drama


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drama-skulls-cruel-imageHow many times have you heard someone say – I don’t want any drama in my life.  That is a very trendy term right now and if you or someone you know is single and dating – that is tossed around like please and thank you!

Everyone claims to hate drama but somehow we find ourselves in it way too often.  Some of us are drama junkies and thrive for it as it gives us a sense of importance.  Some us create it and then swoop in as the savior to “fix” whatever caused it.  How would you like to learn how to navigate through drama with ease?

What is drama?  It is defined as a situation that involves conflict leading to a climax.

Wow.  Does that change your view of drama already?

We all know someone who seems to attract drama.  Usually these people don’t really want that in their lives but due to some underlying trauma they have experienced in the past, the drama is like a comfortable place for them.  They relive the trauma over and over through drama filled episodes and some of us get caught up in it again and again.

Drama in adults can be compared to the terrible twos.  Some toddlers haven’t developed their communication skills when dealing with conflict and will typically act out with a temper tantrum.  Imagine an adult who is unable to regulate their emotions and handle conflict and they act out with an adult temper tantrum that may include backstabbing, gossiping,  and verbal abuse.

Drama exists in the movies for a reason – it is entertaining.  It gives us a distraction momentarily.  We are attracted to drama in the movies much like we are attracted to it in the real world even if we claim we aren’t.  Drama is caused by a distorted thought and we always have the option, the choice to engage or disengage in the events about to unfold.

  1. Stay away from distorted thinking and distorted thinkers is a start.  If you don’t feed the beast, it will go somewhere else to eat.
  2. When someone is unloading on you, listen.  Just listen.  They are looking for an ear not your opinion.  This will keep you from engaging in the situation which can escalate the problem. Don’t talk – don’t discuss – don’t look for a solution.  Let the energy die down before engaging in any conversation.
  3. When drama occurs ask yourself these questions:
    • Is this my business?
    • Is this someone else’s business?
    • Is this only God’s (or whatever higher power you may subscribe to) business?

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Ask yourself: What drama do I have in my life today? Where can I find it and which people are always close by when the drama comes around? 

ACTION STEP #2 ~ Ask yourself: Am I doing, saying or thinking anything that is perhaps contributing to this drama on any level?

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Ask yourself: What would I have to do as far as thought and/or action to remove myself from these situations and prevent my being involved in the future?

As you read this, TODAY, RIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

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Decisions


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Decisions are a mental activity every one of us engages in on a daily basis.  From deciding when to wake up, to what to eat, to how to spend our day, to where to spend our money, to whom to spend our time with… decisions are part of our daily life.

That doesn’t mean we are good at making decisions.  Many of us make very bad decisions every day and only a few of us make good decisions consistently.  Why is there such disparity in this?  What keeps us from making sound decisions?

Did you know that you could virtually eliminate conflict and confusion by becoming proficient at making decisions?  Once you make a decision, you will find all the people, resources and ideas you need every time.

Indecisiveness is a decision to not make a decision.  This is typically fueled by the fear of failure.  Low self esteem and succumbing to circumstances is why so many people make poor decisions.

If you have an idea, a desire, a wish, a worthy ideal, make the decision to achieve whatever it is you want.  Once you make this decision, the people, resources, and ideas will be attracted to you because your belief in achievement will supersede your fears and circumstances.  Your belief will be the catalyst that changes your behaviors, your actions, and ultimately your results.

figure_point_cliff_1600_clr_4134Keep your focus on your visions, your worthy ideal.  Refuse to worry about how it will happen – know that you are capable of anything you put your mind to and make the decision today to DECIDE WHERE YOU ARE WITH WHATEVER YOU’VE GOT.

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt

“There are two primary choices in life; to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.” ~Denis Waitley

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Pay attention to your process of making decisions. Do you make decisions quickly or take a long time to make a decision?

ACTION STEP #2 ~ Pay attention to your actions after you make a decision. Do you stick with the decision or change your mind?

ACTION STEP #3 ~ After you have gathered some data, reflect on your actions and determine if you see a pattern developing. If you notice a pattern developing, does this action serve you? Is it moving you in the direction of where you want to go?

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

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By Bob Kittridge Posted in Success

Critical Thinking


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Critical thinking is utilizing our higher faculties to understand and evaluate subject matter; or to put it simply “knowing how to think.”  When we were in elementary and secondary school, we were taught what to think. We were subjected to a lot of information and now, the trend is to teach to pass a test. We memorize what is needed, take the test, and then forget what we remembered.  If we pursued higher education, most of us college graduates continued down the same path of learning what to think, again for that anticipated test at the end of each semester.

It isn’t until we pursue advanced degrees that we are then required to know how to think.

Consider this conclusion from the National Commission on Excellence in Education in its landmark report, A Nation at Risk, 1983: “Many 17-year olds do not possess the “higher-order” intellectual skills we should expect of them.  Nearly 40 percent cannot draw inferences from written material; only one-fifth can write a persuasive essay; and only one-third can solve a mathematics problem requiring several steps.”

This trend in education has taught us to mind dump everything we know when sharing information. When conducting masterminds or presenting our principles and ideas to prospects, take a moment and evaluate your approach. Are you unconsciously mind dumping everything you know in your allotted time or are you taking the time to help others develop conclusions and their own thought.

Critical thinking is a higher-order level of thinking. It is the ability to think for one’s self and responsibly make those decisions that affect one’s life.  In addition, critical thinking is also critical inquiry: investigating problems, asking questions, and posing new challenging answers.

Consider the benefits of helping develop others’ critical thinking skills.  They will be able to better understand your ideas and better accept your methodologies if they are able to understand, evaluate and conclude in a critical way. In addition, by developing your own critical thinking skills, you will be better equipped to share your life changing information with your clients, co-workers, friends and family.

Critical thinking requires advanced listening skills. Lecturing to others is a passive activity that does not invite audience participation. To critically evaluate needs, it is necessary to present ideas and then allow the group to develop conclusions – openly discuss and debate these new ideas.  Allow the group to think deeply about your ideas and in turn, value what they think and feel. Share these ideas in an environment that allows them to think their ideas matter. Ask them to make connections and recognize patterns in the new ideas you are presenting. These techniques allow your group to begin to develop trust in themselves and their thoughts, which in turn develops their critical skills.

At the conclusion of your discussion, to further develop critical thought, ask your participants to write out the most significant thing they learned AND what single thing they would like to learn more about. This is immediate feedback about what they are learning and what they still need to understand. When presenting – encourage questions and praise the questioner with these examples: “Good question” or “I am sure others want to know that as well.” When your audience asks questions, this is a great indicator that they are thinking critically.

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Evaluate how you are listening.

ACTION STEP #2 ~ Ask yourself if you evaluate what you are being told or taught.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Ask great questions of others, to have them start to think differently.

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

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