Discover Your Sweet Spot


A very good friend and mentor of mine Scott Fay, has just released his new book “Discover Your Sweet Spot.” Let me tell you it is a hit and has made an amazing impact on my life. This book is easy to read and even easier to apply.

Read an excerpt below and join us for the launch party on January 8th at 8 PM EST.

>>>>>>>> CLICK HERE to register

Design With the End in Mind

By Scott M. Fay

Author, Discover Your Sweet Spot

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What do you plan on doing with the new space?” I inquired with genuine interest.

You’d be surprised how few of my clients know the answer to this question.

“I’m not sure I know what you’re asking,” he responded back with equal sincerity. “I thought you were just going to pick out some good- looking trees and shrubs for us. You’re the professional. Isn’t that why we hired your team?”

“I’m definitely up for advising you along the way,” I said reassuringly. “But trust me, designing with the end in mind will help tremendously. Think about it this way: as you imagine the new space we’re designing for you, what do you see yourself doing in that space? Are you hosting garden parties with friends? Do you see yourself sitting next to a small waterfall feature in the evenings while reading your favorite novel? Or maybe you picture your grandkids playing Frisbee with you in the backyard on a plush green lawn?”

A warm smile slowly spread across my client’s face.

“OK, I get it now. You know, come to think of it, I can see myself doing all three!” he chuckled.

“One thing though, Scott,” he shot back.

“Sure, what is it?” By this time, I anticipated a little humor. “Before I give you my final answer, I just have to ask…do you have any additional options besides those three? After all, I don’t want to limit any fun.”

At this comment, we both started laughing. “Now you’re getting it,” I grinned.

I start every job the same way, helping my clients design with the end in mind. It’s always better to talk through their desires in the design phase than to work them out in the build phase. Designing with the end in mind saves them money and it saves me time. Although my landscaping team is always happy to help, and we can do almost anything, most clients don’t have an endless supply of money. A little intentional thinking on the front end saves everyone time and money on the back end.

But this principle reaches far beyond waterfalls and flowerbeds. In fact, it touches every single one of us. Although we might not be able to literally design the environment around us, we’re each given the responsibility to design a conducive environment within us.

Are YOU designing your environment with the end in mind?

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Excerpt taken from Discover Your Sweet Spot by Scott M. Fay, published by Morgan James Publishing, available here via Amazon. More info:  http://www.thesweetspotsystem.com .

Changes


Changes

Well another year has come and gone and we are now into the first day of January 2014. For me this last year year meant a lot of personal growth and change.

One of those changes is learning to be a better blogger and also to help others blog also.

This month we will be winding down this site and moving over to our new site.

Backpacker

I invite you to pack up and come on over with me and please share your feelings.

This new blog site is hosted by the Empower Network and has been a great addition to our mission of reaching others with a message of personal growth and help others in reaching their personal potential.

If you would like to learn more please flow this link >>>>> CLICK HERE

If you would like to continue to follow our posts here are new sites

BuildonBeliefblog.com – I will be address and talking about tips, issues and strategies to grow and become who we are designed to become.

Keystochangeblog.com – learn more about how by saving and earning money we are creating a lifestyle we only dreamed of.

keystosuccessblog.com – Nancy will be talking about how through blogging we are reaching others; and you can also.

Thanks for all your loyal support and I look forward to the continuing connection!

Letting Go


Have you ever wondered why you hold onto emotional and physical pain longer than needed?  There is a belief that we create and maintain problems to give us a sense of identity – to define who we are – to give us purpose.

Do you know of anyone who creates problems and then swoops in to save the day? Or someone who creates problems to then play the role of victim for sympathy and attention?

These behaviors, whether in ourselves or around us are due to the need to replay our past mistakes like a broken record in our minds which in turn builds feelings of shame and regret.  Carrying these burdens dictates the actions we take in the now.  In addition, we hold onto worry and frustration about the future creating unnecessary stress.  Stress has been linked to numerous health issues and the majority of us live with this fabricated stress every day treating is as our normal state.Letting Go

We all know that if we put a little energy to something we get a little out… the same holds true for letting go.  By letting just a little of your past and future regrets, you obtain a little peace in your life but if you let go of a lot, then you will bring in a lot of peace.  More peace equals less stress!  Isn’t the formula we all desire?

Here is a sampling of actions you can take today to begin to let go of the pain and allow peace into your mind and body:

  1. Meditation/Yoga
  2. Physical Activity
  3. Learn a new skill
  4. List out your accomplishments and continue to add to the list daily
  5. Focus your energy on that which you CAN control and not that which you CAN’T control
  6. Engage in a creative project (painting, crafts, gardening, book club)
  7. Write a letter to whomever you hold your anger for, then burn the letter
  8. Take responsibility for you could have done better
  9. Wear a rubberband on your wrist and pull it every time you begin to obsess on the angry thoughts
  10. Have gratitude for the positive memories and know that life is a learning experience
  11. Visualize how you were before the event and know that you now can be that again
  12. Take deep breaths and focus on your breath when you feel angry

BackpackerAnd lastly, fill a backpack with rocks representing your past hurts and take a hike.  When you are ready, remove one rock at a time, naming the rock with a specific memory or person or event that has brought you pain and release it.  You may find that you have packed more rocks than actual pains!

Letting go allows you to make space in your life for new and exciting adventures, experiences, loves, memories.  Letting go brings you inner peace and reduces stress.  Letting go allows you to view the world with new eyes ready to create, build and live that life you have always dreamt about.

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Form and evaluate yourself regarding your ability to Let Go.  Where can you choose differently in these areas?

ACTION STEP #2 ~ What is one step you can take to increase your level of motivation when it comes to those things you say you want? Write it down and take action.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Take Action! Looking for a change, click on the link to the right and check out the blogging system solution.

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

Notice – Act – Navigate – Create – Yield Results

If you are ready to take your personal growth to the next level, JOIN US TODAY!

Curious how the coaching process works? CONTACT US for a complimentary, introductory coaching appointment to experience the value of coaching.

Interested in growing your audience through blogging…check out the link to the right and WATCH IT NOW.’

Law of Prosperity


Spirit never expresses itself other than pure perfection, therefore, whatever imperfections do exist are always the result of our individual or collective thoughts.  Because this is true, it is not necessary that you hold onto anything for fear of losing it.  In fact, you will never truly enjoy anything you must hold onto because freedom in all areas of your life is absolutely essential for you to grow into the truly great human being that you are able to become.

These obstructions that we harbor are doubt, guilt, resentment, and thoughts of lack or limitation, including any negative ideas which have a tendency to block the flow of creative energy to and through you.

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When we hold onto these obstructions, we are unable to make room for the image which we are trying to create. We must resolve to letting go of all of these obstructions so that we can make space in our lives for the good that we desire.

Make room for the new you that you are creating and for that which you desire. Allowing your mind to fill with things that you have no use for stalls your ability to achieve that which you want. Let go. Make space for all the good that is awaiting you.
Make room for new clothes – for the new you that you are creating.  Make room for that which you desire.  Not only do I encourage you to physically clean out your closet, I have metaphorically shown you how our minds get cluttered with those things that we no longer have a use for.  It is time to clean house and let go.  You must continuously make  space for the good that you desire – this is an exercise you will practice for the rest of your life. Let go of the old so you may make room for the new.

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Form and evaluate yourself regarding your doubt, guilt, resentment, and thoughts of lack or limitation. Where can you choose differently in these areas?

ACTION STEP #2 ~ What is one area you can make space for the new? 

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Take Action! Let go of what might be holding you back and make space for the new and the good! 

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

Notice – Act – Navigate – Create – Yield Results

If you are ready to take your personal growth to the next level, JOIN US TODAY!

Curious how the coaching process works? CONTACT US for a complimentary, introductory coaching appointment to experience the value of coaching.

Interested in growing your audience through blogging…check out the link to the right and WATCH IT NOW.’

Law of Vibration


change-your-vibrationWe are all connected.  If you took a powerful microscope and viewed your hand, you would not be able to differentiate where your hand begins and ends.  All things are in a constant state of vibration.  The only difference between one thing and another is in the density or amplitude of vibration. Therefore, we are all connected.

When you have a thought – your brain sends out vibrations.  Sometimes these are positive thoughts and sometimes these are negative thoughts.  Either way, the vibrations are sent out.  If you concentrate on a thought, you are increasing the density or amplitude of the vibration of those cells and the electric waves become more potent.

Those electrical waves are originating in your mind and you are choosing the density of the vibrations.  Think about how powerful that is – you are choosing the density of the vibrations of your thoughts!

Everything is a manifestation of the same thing. The difference is the rate of vibration or frequency.  When you are in harmony with something, you resonate with it – you are in harmonious vibration.

By concentrating on and sending out vibrations of an image in your mind, in the present tense, you are vibrating in harmony with every particle of energy that is necessary for the manifestation of your image on the physical plane.  By holding that image, those particles of energy are moving toward you and you toward them – that is the law of vibration.

Think about the law of vibration – take some time to really think about this – ask questions – gather information – form an idea – test this law.

You will see that through the law of vibration, you will attract to you exactly that which you resonate with, that which you are in harmony with, that which you expend energy thinking about.  If you think about lack – you attract lack.  If you think about abundance – you attract abundance.

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Form and evaluate yourself regarding the vibrations you are sending out and you are receiving.

ACTION STEP #2 ~ What is one step you can take to increase your level of vibration when it comes to those things you say you want? Write it down and take action.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Take Action! 

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

Notice – Act – Navigate – Create – Yield Results

If you are ready to take your personal growth to the next level, JOIN US TODAY!

Curious how the coaching process works? CONTACT US for a complimentary, introductory coaching appointment to experience the value of coaching.

Interested in growing your audience through blogging…check out the link to the right and WATCH IT NOW.’

Intuition


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My gut is telling me… I got a funny feeling about… My intuition says something isn’t right…  Have you heard this before?  Some of us have well developed intuitions that we trust and use to make decisions and some of us don’t trust our intuition anymore than we would knock on wood.

But what is intuition?  Intuition is your brain on autopilot.  Think about when you take a shower. Most of us don’t think.  We are on autopilot.  We start with our hair and work our way down or however you do it. You do it the same every day and your brain takes in information while you are probably still waking up.  Your brain is functioning outside your awareness which is called nonconscious thinking.

It is safe to rely on nonconscious thinking for tasks such as showering, preparing that morning cup of coffee, walking or even driving to the office.  These are routines that your brain is capable of handling without you getting involved in the process.

Your Brain…..

But your brain is also functioning in this capacity during complex processes that you think you are fully aware for.  Our brains are capable of very complex tasks and when we involve the subconscious mind, sometimes we lose those sound judgments our intuition has processed as we begin to overthink a situation and question ourselves.  We dismiss our intuition.  All of the factors that influence our reactions are always available to our conscious minds.

My mentor says that spirit is our intuition and therefore is always right.  In my own experiences, I have found that before I understood this concept, I questioned or flat out ignored my intuition and made some pretty bad decisions and when I accepted this thought – I found that my intuition has been spot on.

Many people believe that God speaks to us through our intuition and yet we still ignore all the signs and overthink something to disaster.  Test your intuition for the next 30 days.  Keep a journal of when you get a funny feeling and write down the circumstances and then the outcome.  Be sure to go back after the month and review whether or not you followed your intuition and how accurate it was.  It may just surprise you.

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Form and evaluate yourself and the way you use your intuition. 

ACTION STEP #2 ~ Keep a journal of when you get a funny feeling and write down the circumstances and then the outcome. Evaluate how either using or ignoring your Intuition affected the outcome.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Take Action! Start to listen to that little voice……You never know how your life might change!

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

Notice – Act – Navigate – Create – Yield Results

If you are ready to take your personal growth to the next level, JOIN US TODAY!

Curious how the coaching process works? CONTACT US for a complimentary, introductory coaching appointment to experience the value of coaching.

Interested in growing your audience through blogging…check out the link to the right and WATCH IT NOW.’

Integrity


Integrity

Integrity is based on what that one person perceives another with integrity really means.  Each of us has our own set of values and beliefs and therefore defining ones’ character as having or lacking integrity is subjective.

With that said, however you define integrity, I believe we all can agree that determining ones’ having integrity relies mostly on them standing for something and then staying on purpose with whatever that something is.  When one sways from that purpose and behaves in a way that is no longer in alignment with what they previously stood for, they can become labeled as being out of integrity.

Have you heard – Do as I say, not as I do?  Prime example of someone who does not stay on purpose with what they stand for and believe in.  If they did, then the saying would be do as I say and as I do.  If you are a parent, this is crucial.  Parents are modeling behavior for their children.  Actions speak louder than words.  Children pick up on those subtle behaviors and ignore lip service.

The same holds true with adult relationships.  Work or personal, it doesn’t matter.  People are savvy and see right through smoke screens.  Some may not be sophisticated enough or have the confidence to call another on it but when people exhibit a lack of integrity, out goes the trust factor too.  You can’t trust someone who doesn’t do as they say.  What they are telling you is that they don’t believe what their own advice is, either.

In the Personal Development industry, when you are seeking help from a coach or mentor, it is important to interview and get to know the person who will be advising and guiding you through a process. Ask questions about how this has helped them.  Find out what their values and beliefs are so you can match yourself with someone who has similar values and beliefs as you.

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Form and evaluate yourself regarding your Integrity.

ACTION STEP #2 ~ What is one step you can take to increase your level of integrity? Write it down and take action.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Take Action! Looking for a change, determine where in your life that increasing your integrity will impact the world around you.

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

Notice – Act – Navigate – Create – Yield Results

If you are ready to take your personal growth to the next level, JOIN US TODAY!

Curious how the coaching process works? CONTACT US for a complimentary, introductory coaching appointment to experience the value of coaching.

Interested in growing your audience through blogging…check out the link to the right and WATCH IT NOW.’

Inspiration


 

InspirationWhere does your inspiration come from? Does it come from your family? Is it passed down generation to generation?  Is it your grade school teacher? Your big sister?  Your relationship with your creator? Where do you get your inspiration and how do you channel it?

We all hit a block at some point in life – sometimes more than we care to talk about and we need a little inspiration to re-light our fire and let our creativity flow freely again.

This morning, do you remember waking up and what you did for that first hour?  Can you recount all the motions you went through?  If not, then you need some inspiration.  You need to mix up your routine and throw in some spontaneity into your life.  Stop and smell the roses.

The older we get, the busier our lives become and we take for granted all those little things that we were in such awe of as a child.  It’s time for a life reboot – to untether ourselves from our everyday doldrums and take a moment or two to see what we have been missing for a long time now.

It is time to get inspired!

  1. Have a plan – not a detailed plan – but something that you would like to stop and do for a moment that you have either wanted to do for a long time and couldn’t find the time or something that you used to do that you miss very much.  But not too planned – in the event while executing your plan you find yourself wanting to do something else, be flexible and go with the flow.
  2. Pay attention to your surroundings.  Smell the flowers, notice the older couple holding hands, see the children running through the park, smile at the dog with the pink studded collar… don’t follow the tour guide at the museum – be your own tour guide and spend longer at an exhibit really taking in the intricacies of the piece.gorillia smelling the flowers
  3. Document your experience.  Bring your camera and whatever else you need to capture these moments.
  4. Bring a friend.  Take the time to explore somewhere with someone you care about and share this experience.  Create memories.
  5. Stay away from subways.  Sounds odd but if you are travelling underground how do you get to enjoy what is happening?  Walk if you can and then when you need to rest – find a place to sit and people watch.  Recharge your internal batteries and then go again.

Don’t look for inspiration.  That sounds funny but this is an exercise in creating inspiration through your environment and not by creating false inspiration through planned events.  Be free and enjoy what is already around you!

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Form and evaluate yourself regarding your inspirational abilities. What areas in your life can you become more INSPIRED?

ACTION STEP #2 ~ What is one step you can take to increase your INSPIRATION when it comes to those things you say you want? Write it down and take action.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Take Action! Look for things that inspire you and better yet contribute and inspire others. 

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

Notice – Act – Navigate – Create – Yield Results

If you are ready to take your personal growth to the next level, JOIN US TODAY!

Curious how the coaching process works? CONTACT US for a complimentary, introductory coaching appointment to experience the value of coaching.

Interested in growing your audience through blogging…check out this link and WATCH IT NOW.’

The Law of Curiosity


In John Maxwell’s Book “The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth” Law Number 12 is the Law of Curiosity…this law states:

Growth is Stimulated by Asking Why?

“Some men see things as they are and ask why.

Others dream things that never were and ask why not!”

~ George Bernard Shaw

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Where does curiosity come from you might ask? Are we born with it or do we discover it?

My belief is that we are born curious. If you don’t believe me take a look at a young child, as they move from an infant to a toddler…..their world is nothing but curiosity. They crawl and find things..and where is the first place it goes……right into their mouth! See, that is their world…it is how they discover..through taste, then through feel…that is why they lick the television!

As we grow, sometimes this curiosity is programmed out of us. How many times were you told, “Curiosity Killed the Cat!” The second part of that statement that we were seldom told was “Satisfaction Brought it Back!”

Curious people possess a thirst for knowledge. They are always interested in life, people, ideas, new experiences. They aways live in a state of wanting more. These are the dreamers that look at things that never were and ask why not!

Asking why not verses why will open our mind to the reception, the new frequency of a new idea. See, the answer to the why, gives us a response to ‘why‘ and can be a danger, a danger of limiting our curiosity to look at new ways.

How to Cultivate Curiosity?

I so love being around curious people, people that are always excited for the new learning and the knowledge. The best thing I enjoy about these types of people, is that their mindset is contagious. These are the people that will move an organization forward, new products, new ways to do things. These are the people that create! Create things that we didn’t even know we needed.

Steve Jobs was one of those……he was a master of curiosity, he was always asking why not. Henry Ford was another. When he was told that his dream of have an opposing cylinder V8 engine was impossible, he didn’t believe them, he kept asking “Why Not?” He challenged the common sense of the situation.

First Step!

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If you are reading this and you are not curious, you may be asking “How Do I Start?”

Believe You Can Be Curious!

Most people today are filled with limiting beliefs, lack of personal self confidence and self-esteem. These issues, these limiting beliefs put the limitation on our thinking. They stop us from asking “Why Not?” They stop us, not from the lack of capacity, but because they are unwilling to break free and expand their beliefs.

Maxwell Maltz in his book Psycho-cybernetics, clearly defines that we cannot perform on the outside, if it does not match who we are inside.

BUT! Here is the great news, we can change our thinking and as a result our life.

If you are interested in learning more about this concept, how our self-image rules our performance, then join us Saturday, September 21 at 0800 am MDT.

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ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Form and evaluate yourself regarding your ability to be curious. Where can you choose differently in this area?

ACTION STEP #2 ~ What is one step you can take to increase your level of curiousity when it comes to those things you say you want? Write it down and take action.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Take Action! Looking for a change, JOIN US on Saturday for a great teaching on self-image.

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

Notice – Act – Navigate – Create – Yield Results

If you are ready to take your personal growth to the next level, JOIN US TODAY!

Curious how the coaching process works? CONTACT US for a complimentary, introductory coaching appointment to experience the value of coaching.

Interested in growing your audience through blogging…check out this great video

WATCH IT NOW.’

Information


Information

Information is crucial for everything. Can you think of an instance where you don’t need information?  It’s like going on a trip without a roadmap or through life without goals.  We need information to help us get from A to B and all points in between.

With the Internet, we have information almost instantaneously with a push of a button.  Do a search on any topic and there is flood of websites to tell you all about whatever you are searching for.  Sometimes the search is spot on and other times it is completely off base but the beauty is you can search again and again refining until you get it right.

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With that, why are so many people still ill informed?  There has never been a time like now with access to so much information through our phones, homes, cars, cafés, libraries… even restaurants give free access.  And yet you hear people say the craziest things and have outlandish opinions based on no facts you are aware of.

This is partly due to the other form of information – the media.  The media has its own agenda and long gone are the days of unbiased news outlets.  But this isn’t about the media. It is about information and how to obtain useful information that is both accurate and proven to be true.

When it comes to personal development and growth, there are many people who claim to have the secrets to success.  And from appearances, they sure do look successful.  But their success may not equate to your definition of success so my advice to you is this:

Define what you think makes a person successful.  Not how to be successful.  Illustrate through words what a successful person is – from relationships to material goods.  However you define success.  And from that – match up those who claim success to see if they fit your description, which is based on your values and beliefs.  If they don’t, then pass on their advice.  If they do, then find out how you can work with them or someone associated with them to mentor you and help you to achieve success.

ACTION STEP #1 ~ Utilize the Lesson Evaluation Form and evaluate yourself on were you get information and how are you utilizing it. Determine if that information is advancing you or keeping you from achieving your goal.

ACTION STEP #2 ~ What is one step you can take to increase your level of awareness and utilization of information when it comes to those things you say you want? Write it down and take action.

ACTION STEP #3 ~ Take Action! Write out what it will take, what information you need in order to achieve success.

As you read this, TODAYRIGHT NOW can be one of those DECISION POINTS. Today can be the day you discover your potential. Today can be the day you spread your wings and start SOARING! All it takes is DEFINING the VISION, DISCIPLINING the FOCUS and ACHIEVING POSITIVE LEGACY!

Build on Belief ~ Go Big Today!

Notice – Act – Navigate – Create – Yield Results

If you are ready to take your personal growth to the next level, JOIN US TODAY!

Curious how the coaching process works? CONTACT US for a complimentary, introductory coaching appointment to experience the value of coaching.

Interested in growing your audience through blogging…check out this great video WATCH IT NOW.’